When you're feeling lousy, it can be hard to do something like get up and ask for - or even look for- help. I have been there. But things can get better. However, things do not usually get better all by themselves. It takes some work. But it really can get a whole lot better. It has for me. I was so sick I had a stroke and kidney failure, congestive heart failure, anemia, the whole schmear. Fast forward to today: I am now married, got my hair back, kept my kidneys (they are functioning normally), got full function of my hand back, and I'm happy. I work out, teach guitar, wrote a book, I travel, I perform comedy-music shows, I go out and have fun with friends. I can even get an "A" on dance dance revolution. In fact, sometimes I'm doing so well, my lab tests turn up completely normal. You would never know I had lupus if I weren't sitting here typing about it. I'm only at about 90%, but heck that's better than a lot of my so-called healthy friends. I say all that not to brag, but to let you know there is hope. None of us get better all on our own. We all need help, including -and especially- emotional support. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a support group in their town that is specifically for their illness. But there are some other resources. There are lots of great chat rooms on the web for just abtu any disease you can think of. I'm listing here the ones specific to lupus. I like this one (though I haven't been on it for a while): http://forum.wehavelupus.com/forum.php And this one seems quite active: http://chronicbabeclub.ning.com/ This one has an active lupus section, but also sections for all kinds of other illnesses, and over 94,000 members: http://www.healingwell.com/lupus/ Of course, meeting face to face is even better, if you're feeling up to leaving the house. Start with the Lupus Foundation of America (LFA): http://tinyurl.com/45gzkvq If there aren't any chapters of the lupus foundation in your area, there may be some meetup groups. Go here and enter your zip code (Some groups cost a few dollars per event; some don't): http://meetup.com/ Sometimes there is a support group at your local hospital. Open up your options by attending groups for any autoimmune disease. Additionally, when you're surfing around on the internet late at night lonely, bored, or in pain, there are a number of lupus blogs out there you can read (including mine) by bloggers who post about their journey. You can read, leave comments, or - if feeling ambitious- start your own blog to vent feelings and ask readers to interact. It's free. check out blogger.com or wordpress.com (blogger is easier to use). This is the lupus foundation's blog, but if you look along the right column, there is a list of links to a bunch of blogs written by lupus patients. http://lfa-inc.blogspot.com/ Carla ~~~~~~~~~~~ Carla Ulbrich, The Singing Patient, is the author of "How Can You *Not* Laugh at a Time Like This? Reclaim Your Health with Humor, Creativity and Grit" http://www.thesingingpatient.com http://tinyurl.com/4j8qfc4
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